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Having the Talk
When your loved one needs additional care.
As your parents or other loved ones age, you may be thinking it’s time for them to consider moving to a senior living facility like St. Anthony’s. This can be a difficult time for your loved one as they worry about losing their independence.
And we understand that these conversations don’t always come easily. As a son or daughter, or other loved one, conversations like these can bring mixed emotions. While it’s hard to see someone struggle with daily living activities, there is so much joy to be found in helping them into a new season and new home where they can be safe, well cared for and surrounded by joyful community.
"Difficult conversations go smoothly when handled with love."
Here is some advice for turning this into a beautiful and positive conversation.
- Listen first. You want what’s best for your parent or loved one, but they might have a better idea of what they need than you do. Be patient and really listen to what they have to say about changing their living situation.
- Acknowledge their feelings, empathizing with their love of their home and current lifestyle, while suggesting ways to maintain the pieces they love in a way that helps them get the support they need.
- Be lovingly honest about your concerns. Their safety is a top priority, but let them know your concerns with patience and care. Difficult conversations go smoothly when handled with love.
- Discuss all available options. Help your loved one to see all the possibilities and make an informed decision on what is best for them, whether that be in-home care, moving in with a family member or moving to a senior living community. Consider future needs as well as present needs, thinking about options that are ideal for the long-term.
- Take it step by step. This is a big decision and a significant change for your loved one, so it likely won’t be decided all in one sit-down. Start with exploring options, taking tours and considering the best fit.
Bringing Other Loved Ones in on the Conversation
You don’t have to have this conversation alone! Bring other loved ones into the conversation, especially your fellow siblings when talking with an aging parent. Doing so means everyone feels supported. And everyone is on the same team: This is a conversation, not a confrontation. It’s a gathering of people who love each other dearly and want what is best for the senior in need of extra support.
If you’ve started conversations about senior care options with an aging parent or loved one and are ready to start looking at options available to you, we’d love to help you explore and see if St. Anthony’s is the best option! Give us a call today to set up an appointment to tour our beautiful community.
